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buzz2304  

Need help to pay my bills.

I'm a disabled Veteran with chronic PTSD. I can't work or get disability for it.
I live on less than $1000 a month. I'm always behind on my bills. I need help to stay ahead of poverty.
Buzz2304@gmail.com
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Dew's Girl  

PTSD Home for Vets

I'm needing help with a property in Texas (I'm in CA.) and creating a home for vets with PTSD. I have a 4-plex and could accommodate 4-8 individuals. Anybody with information about programs or wanting to contribute what they can to make this a reality would be great! Thanks so much!

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Old Log Dog  

About Old Log Dog

I'm a 24 Year Retired Air Force & Disabled Vet with PTSD and Brain Disorder, married with a son of 14yrs old.  Suffered A car accident 05, lost my job, house, 2nd car, etc. 4 Months ago we are on the verge of breaking even, to cut expenses we moved to smaller home only 1 mile from work (cutting 550 Miles weekly in comuting to work.  then an my wife had an illness in her family which required emergency travel overseas, which has has nearly burried us in debt.  In desperate need of finacial assistance, just I am not looking for a hand out, what I need is Loan to consolidate outstanding debt.  I am employed ends are just not meeting.    I have income that can cover $200 - $250 a month maybe $300.  I just need a loan of $2,500 to $6,000 to keep hitting bottom again, and keep me from loosing my mind.  My Credit was on the rise but may be heading down again.   Payday Loans and Credit Counselling are not options.

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manic mamma  

About manic mamma

I'm not sure where to begin. I am 38yrs old,single mom of two boys. About ten yrs ago,my whole life was dumped over and I've been trying to scratch the pieces ever since.

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Dartel  

About Dartel

Hi, All

My name is Edward. I am a (currently) 30% PTSD Service Connected Disabled Veteran. I lost my PT Job and my phone has been shut off I am 3 months behind on my car payment ($900), 2 months behind on Electric ($125), Low on food, Using the Library Computer to look for work. Any assistance will be gratefully received and hope to get a Job ASAP so I can return the favor.

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maris  

NON-COMBAT PTSD

HELLO,

   I fully understand how mean people can be in a work environment when it comes to a mental illness.  If you take med's they think your going to go "Postal", they make fun of you and also can make you work day hell.   Many people don't understand non-combat PTSD is a demon we have to fight everyday, We didnt ask or invite this into our lives, it was just something we went through that affected us and changed of whole life.  PTSD I feel is my own personal hell, a brain injury that will affect us for along time.  Something I wouldnt wish on anyone.

 

 

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maris  

About maris

 Hello everyone,  Hope to find everyone here is good spirits.

  About me well, here I go.

In 1996 my husband was murdered in front of me and my boys, a year later my son was molested by a hair dresser, then he started useing drugs and then herion he is in prision now I have custody of my 2nd grandson since he was 10 says old I lost my first grfandson to CPS my grandson is very hyper due to both parents useing drug

 

My younger son has dyslexia and ptsd and a learning disability.  I have ptsd and suffer from all the flashback anixity nightmares memory trouble I lost my job my home my car and my mind,

I feel numb, and cant seem to get back into reality.  I have nothing I have lost everything and I feel like life is not worth it anymore..

 

 

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KEN47  

About KEN47

i STARTED A NON PROFIT CALLED "OPERATION ON EAGLES WINGS THIS IS THRU THE COUNTRY. OUR MISSION STATEMENT IS MENTAL HEALTH PTSD SUICIDE PREVENTION. I HAVE AN ISLAND (GOOGLE EARTH 469 OCEAN GROVE AVE, SWANSEA MA 02777) WE PLAN ON HOUSING TEACHING AND GIVING THESE YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN A CHANCE TO RE-PATRIATE INTO SOCIETY. iT WILL BE 8 WEEKS LONG OF FUN AND RELAXATION AND OF COURSE WORKING THEIR PROBLEMS OUT. i AM 100% DISABLED BUT DON'T TELL ANYONE -I SERVED WITH THE SPECIAL FORCES AND THE 173RD AIRBORNE LLRP.

i CAN RUN WITH THE BEST OF THEM i HAVE BEEN DECORATED AND NEVER KNEW I HAD PTSD TILL 10 YEARS AGO. I BEGAN TO RESEARCH MY ISSURS AND THE ISSUES AT LARGE. THER RAND CORP THE THINK TANK OF THE GOVERNMENT SAYS 3 IN 5 WILL HAVE PTSD AND THE KILLER IS 1 IN 3 WILL BE HOMELESS..THAT IS NOT ME SAYING THIS BUT OUR GOVERNMENT. HELP SHOULD BE SOUGHT ASAP

HERE IS WHAT GENERALLY HAPPENS;

  • DRINKING
  • DRUGS
  • FAILED MARRIAGES
  • CANNOT HOLD A JOB
  • WITHDRAW FROM SOCIETY
  • LIVE UNDER SOME BRIDGE OR TUNNEL

THAT IS IT IN A NUTSHELL.

WE ARE STARTING PROGRAMS TO TEACH PEOPLE TRADES NOT EVERYONE IS MEANT FOR COLLEGE I HAVE A SMART SOM WITH A MASTERS THAT CANNOT FIND A JOB--HE IS A BARTENDER. THAT IS WHERE I CAM UP WITH THE IDEA OF TEACHING TRADES GETTING THEM FINANCED AND SETTLED AND THEN GOING FOR IT. THE ONLY KICKER IS THAT THEY HAVE TO GIVE BACK, IF THEY FAIL THEY CAN COME BACK. THE NEW BILL OF RIGHTS FOR GI'S I PERSONALLY DON'T LIKE IT FOCCUSSES ON COLLEGE NOT EVERYONE IS MEANT FOR COLLEGE AND I KNOW ALOT OF COLLEGE GRADS THAT ARE BEATING THE BUSHES.

WE ARE BUILDING A MEMORIAL PROTOTYPE FOR ALL 50 STATES . I WANT TO SET UP CHAPTERS IN ALL 50 STATES... OUR MOTTO IS "OPERATION ON EAGLES WINGS--THE BROTHERHOOD--NO ONE LEFT BEHIND..................NEXT POSTING WILL BE MY PICTURE, THE LOGO,THE MONUMENT AND THE BEGINNING OF OUR WEBBSITE.....

IF ANYONE KNOWS OR CAN HELP WITH FUNDING--THIS IS A BIG ENDEAVOR.............THANKS, KEN

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Marciea  

SPOUSE OF A VETERAN NEEDS ADVICE AND/OR FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE

Posted in butterfly22 on Jun 15, 2009... modified on Jun 23, 2009

I am the spouse of a veteran with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  Since he has been home from Afghanistan six years ago he has become violent, angry, and distant from our family.  Two weeks ago he threatened to kill me and I called the police (only because the VA counselor told me to do so).  If I would have known that this would not get him/us more help I wouldn't have done it.  Now he is out of the home, took all the finances, and I am left with the house, bills, car payment, no food, no gas, no nothing.

I have been in counseling since February for depression, anxiety, and possibly secondary PTSD myself.  His anger has nearly caused me to have a nervous breakdown.   I have Rhumetoid Arthritis so I have only been working part time for the past few years (12 hours a week at the store he manages).  I also have to have surgery on the nerves in both my feet.  How am I suppose to look for a full time job when I am suppose to have this surgery, and have no gas for the car?

I have tried to get help from the VA but have been told that spouses dont get help.  If he were still in the military I would but he got out last year; he couldn't handle it anymore.

My husband is mentally ill and no matter how much I try to talk to him about the help he and I need, and the counseling we should be in together, he doesn't want to hear it.  He just left me stranded and I have no clue of what to do.  I love my husband and want to help him/us but right now I am having a difficult time helping myself.  I worry they will take the car, forclose on the house; and when he gets better what home will my soldier have to come home to.

Is there anyone out there who can help me, whether it be adivce or financial

I don't think it's right to leave the spouse out of the help and assistance from the military or government, but there is nothing I can do about that.  So many women/spouses are in my position when it comes to dealing with the aftermath of war, not to mention the support we gave while they were gone.

If anyone can help, I would really appreciate it.  My contact is carina30@aol

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entropy316  

All out of ideas

Well, here goes.  I have never done anything like this before and am not sure how it works but hell, lets give it a shot.  I am a 27 year old veteran of the Iraq/Afghanistan wars (simply put)  I believe i am a victim of identity theft and have already taken the proper measures to catch it.  The problem is this possibly may have happened while i was over seas and have no proof of anything i am horrible at keeping track of anything like that i lose everything lol i have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (commonly known as PTSD) so its hard for me to function.  I believe i am in a gray zone when it comes to getting financial help from any company do to not owing scrupulous amounts in credit card debt i have a lot of back bills to [pay and cannot get a loan to do so i make over 50,000 a year and just need a jump start to getting out of this the wife n kids are depending on a broken soldier anyone got any ideas? im tapped out.  I have tried everything to get my family out of this Please anything you have for infor or anything will help  My brain hurts.

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ladyredinwaiting  

About ladyredinwaiting

I am 11 weeks pregnant. I have PTSD, and resently quit my job. My boyfriend left me atfer he promissed me he would see me though this hard time in my life. I was tired of letting the PTSD rule my life. But he left me for another woman 3 months after I started treatment. I found out I was pregnant a week later. He told me that was my problem. I loved him. I am a high risk when I am pregnant. I have 3 other children. This point in my pregnantcy I have been advised to not lift over 10lb.

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cartersmom  

About cartersmom

Hello I would have never thought I would do anything like this. I am 25 years old and a stay at home mom to a 20 month old. I have been with my sig other for almost 8 and a half years. Okay, my like began in a small town, there I was the model student. I was in athletics, I did community service, and I was also a tutor. I graduated second in my class. I was accepted to all the schools anyone can dream of. I decided on Texas Christian University. I was there my whole freshman year. But being away from home really took a toll on me. I was lonely and I wasnt as busy as I had been my entire life. I guess it was there that my mind took a trip back in time. I remembered why I had always hated family gatherings and why I tried my hardest to stay busy. Anyway at the back of my mind I kept a dark secret. I was molested from the age of 6 til 10. Although I remember clearly now during my childhood until the time I started college I always kept it in the back of my mind for fear of embarrassment and because I did not want any one to know because I was threatened if I was to ever tell. Anyway I was away from home from the protection of my immediate family and the comfort of my boyfriend. The memories for some reason flooded over me. I really did not know how to handle it. I started doing mediocre at everything. So i decided to go closer to home. I transferred my second year to Arizona State. There I thought I was going to go to school with my high school sweetheart. But he decided to join the Marines. His brother joined and he for fear of anything ever happening to him joined to protect him. At this point I did not let anyone know of what my mind was remembering. I knew things would not be the same. I could not keep the memories inside anymore and I told my boyfriend and then my sister and then my parents. And like I always knew things were never the same. Our family gatherings were no longer gatherings or a hundred or so. They were just only my immediate family because everyone else did not want o believe what happened. My cousin molested me for years and no one wanted to believe me. Anyway it took years for me to deal with the change and take something horrible and change it to something good. I felt then like I was the only one, now I feel like I should help others who are in the same shoes as I once was. I really want to help young girls and boys to get on with their lives. All through this ordeal my studies were not being challenged by me. I put them aside and tried dealing with my problems, and me getting better jeopardized my studies. I was no longer an A+ student. At this time my boyfriend found out he was going to Iraq. I just decided that it was best that I take time off. We spent time together and he left for his deployment. We talked only a few times during the time he was gone. The only news I heard was something bad. He was with 3/25 Lima Co they lost many young men during their deployment. In fact my boyfriend almost died, his team leader, Cpl Andre Williams, was killed just an arms length in front of him. His deployment was my worst time ever, It was hard going anywhere. Everywhere I went was something about the war. But today I am so glad he came home when so many were lost. A year after he came home after 7 years of being with him, we concieved a baby boy. We named him Carter. In June 2008 John finished his duties with the marines. Now the only thing we are battling is PTSD. Some days he feels good. Some days he has the worst headache imaginable. Yet we are still trying to go through all the red tape at the VA trying to get him helped. He is in school at the time full time. We do not have very much money so I stay home and take care of our son. John hopes to be done with school in the next year and a half. We just hope by then we get some help with his disability. Cause clearly he is not the same person I have known all these years. I still love him though, he helped me through my rough patches. Now is my time to help him. I just want to finish school so we can do things on our own but our families arent rich. I owe money from when I was in school, about 27,000. If someone could help me get back in school, we will be set the rest of the way from there. Money doesnt mean alot to some people but this 27000 is a big thorn. It would never be there if so many things didnt happen.

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davnashville  

About davnashville

I am a disabled Gulf War combat veteran that lives in the Nashville TN Area. I have a wonderful wife and 3 children. I am in the process of getting full disability as it has become hard to do just about anything.

I enjoy helping other especially veterans and thier families. I am a member of many different Veterans organizations and a Life Member of the DAV, VFW, AMVETS, and Iraq War Veterans. I have held many local, department, state and NAtional offices in these organization and I am currently the National Adjutant General for the Iraq War Veterans.

If you are a veteran or in a veterans family and need help them maybe I can get it for you. I am always ready to do what I can!

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Anora Eldorath  

PTSD, Rape, and Sexual Abuse

PTSD, Rape, and Sexual Abuse

Reposted with permissions. (Thanks Joanne)


Post traumatic stress disorder is not just something that war veterans get.

Learn about the symptoms and treatments for PTSD, and how it can affect all areas of the sufferer's life.


Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Rape, and Sexual Abuse

The estimated risk for rape survivors developing post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is 49%. The risk for those beaten or experiencing physical assault is 31.9%, whilst the risk for others who experienced sexual assault is 23.7%. Given these figures, it is no wonder women are more likely to develop PTSD than men, as they are statistically significantly more likely to experience sexual assault.


Post traumatic stress disorder is characterized by intense fear, a sense of helplessness, or horror. It can affect all areas of a person's life, their emotions, mental wellbeing, and physical health. And symptoms are generally worse in situations, like rape and abuse, where the trauma was deliberately initiated against those involved.A person with post traumatic stress disorder may re-live the traumatic events, having flashbacks or other reminders and images that intrude on their waking hours, or in dreams and nightmares. These reminders may also trigger physical symptoms, such as heart palpitations or chills. Or emotional problems, like anxiety, depression, and dread.

People with post traumatic stress disorder may avoid any reminders of the trauma, whether that is people associated with the experience, or places, or even thoughts of the trauma. They can distance themselves from family and friends, and withdraw from everyday activities and things they used to enjoy.Relationship problems are common for survivors of rape and sexual abuse. Some survivors avoid intimacy, others avoid sex, and some avoid both, and create patterns in their lives where those coping mechanisms are maintained. But sufferers of PTSD who did not experience any sexual abuse can also have problems in their relationships, or in social situations.

Another characteristic of post traumatic stress disorder is being on guard all the time, and suddenly feeling anger or irritability. There can be problems with sleeping and concentrating, and sufferers may be startled easily. Self destructive behaviours, such as gambling, risky sex, drug use, alcohol abuse, or other problems like dangerous driving, may be present. Depression, disassociation, or other mental health problems can develop.Not all of these characteristics may be present in PTSD, and the degree to which one experiences them may vary also. And PTSD may not develop until months or years after the trauma. Particularly in relation to abuse in childhood, symptoms of PTSD can pass, then reappear later in life. This can make it difficult to recognize when PTSD is occurring, as survivors may not associate their current feeling and behaviours with past events.

Each time symptoms appear, however, they provide an opportunity for healing. Post traumatic stress disorder can be treated, using a combination of medication and psychotherapy.Whilst medications were not thought to help in the treatment of PTSD in the past, they have been found to be beneficial now, probably due to newer ones being available. The SSRI's (selective serotonin uptake inhibitors) zoloft and paxil are both approved by the FDA for treating PTSD. And newer antidepressants like effexor and serzone are also beneficial, and tend to be used when the patient does not tolerate paxil and zoloft, or those medications aren't effective.There are 3 types of psychotherapy that can be used to treat PTSD. These are exposure management, cognitive therapy, and anxiety management. A combination of all 3 may be used, or one individually.

Each person is different in what they will respond to.In exposure therapy, patients confront, in a safe therapeutic environment, the situations, people, and memories associated with the trauma. People with PTSD usually avoid this very thing, but by working through the trauma in this way, exposure therapy is actually very effective at healing PTSD.Cognitive therapy helps in the process of understanding how our thoughts affect our feelings, and provides ways of shifting negative thinking.

Negative thinking can perpetuate a mental prison where joy and interconnectedness is no longer felt. Changing those dynamics can provide a new framework with which to process the trauma, and allow healing to occur.In anxiety management, skills are learnt that help one cope better with the symptoms and triggers of post traumatic stress disorder. They can help reduce the intensity of the symptoms, though they need to be practised to be effective. Anxiety management techniques can be very helpful in controlling anxiety whilst doing exposure therapy. Some techniques used include relaxation, breathing techniques, assertiveness training, and positive thinking and self talk.


References:1. ptsdalliance.org/about_what.html2. ptsd.factsforhealth.org/whatmeds.html3. nimh.nih.gov/publicat/anxiety.cfm
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Published: 6/23/2006
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wapitig8r  

About wapitig8r

Hello, I just read Blessd4's page and although its too late for her this Christmas, my family was able to take advantage of Toys for Tots, our counseling facility, and God really came through for us this year in terms of surprise monetary donataions.  I fled a domestic violence situation and received bad advice from the abuse shelters.  I currently share custody of my son with my X. He has been in jail twice but has been allowed to keep his job as a special ed teacher. No one cares. I was a former Wide Area Systems Network Analyst for a large international company.  I have spent 6 years going through agencies- I suffer from PTSD- taking all kinds of medication, feeling sorry for myself and getting absolutely nowhere.  All the agencies want you to go back to work even though you have no self esteem which is absolutely critical to try and find a job in today's market.  I was able to find work as a temp clerk through several agencies in town but that dried up.  My EX sued for custody 3 times for my son and has used all of my mothers retirement savings. I live with my mother. Social Services has adopted the Kurt Vonnegut's Harrison Bergeron model of social services - that is, deliver to the lowest common denominator.  I decided to buck the system and go back to school. That was the best decision I have ever made in 6 years. I made the dean's list and earned a scholarship.  I am attending a community college and earning my AS degree in IT. My self esteem is coming back. I have stopped taking my antidepressants - they only made the depression worse.  I plan on getting my Master's Degree and PhD in computer science.  Social services hates this idea, they want me to say "do you want fries with that" or "Welcome to Walmart" so that I can stop receiving medicaid and food stamps, but receive no benefits and not be able to afford insurance.  I am hopeful that Barack Obama will change the system. If I can offer help or advice to anyone in a similar situation feel free to contact me.

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rickkmar  

About rickkmar

Hello my name is Rick, Iam a disabled marine veteran from the first gulf war(desert sheild/storm). I suffer from what the VA calls ptsd, but its really undiagnosed illness, I have cpod and cronic fatigue & bad depression. I guess the reason Im writing is to help my wife, we barely get enough to pay the bills and feed the kids, I have 100% coverage @ the VA but my wife has nothing and we cant afford for her to go to the doctor. She needs new glasses and dental work done. Can any one help me with any ideas Im so tired of all this .

Ive never tried a web site before and I hope Im not opening myself up to trouble.

Any help would be most appreciated, thank you

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tarun_love  

About tarun_love

I am here because my best friend and husband committed suicide Feb 10, 2007.  Three months later I was fired because the clinic i worked for felt they were patient long enough re: my grief.  I continue to struggle, merely survive day to day financialy mind you since. I am an independent, smart woman and I don't know what is happening or what has happenend. STILL!  I have no insurance and live in a small town with no resources that I am in need of. MHMR in my county would be too much a conflict of interest. I am about to lose myself my dogs and the home Terry and I have lived in for 5yrs. Help! I humble myself before God and everyone. I realiz e I am not the only wife to lose her husband tragically nor do i wish to imply that i am greater in sadness and loss than a fellow widow/widower. I need support, help, direction.

 Thank You, Tarun_Love

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